Here we go…

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Here we go! My journey into the blog world… Honestly, I’m not sure where this is going, if this is going to benefit me in any way, or if this will be a distant memory within the next week.

I decided to start a blog as a “diary”, mainly for personal reasons but open to the public to read. I feel like this is going to be a good way for me to slowly make my way towards a much happier life. I have a little notebook that I was going to use, but in this day and age everything is online.

So, a little about me… I am a 22 year old (23 in a few, yay!) from Rochester, NY that is currently and has been suffering from depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember. I have finally decided that this cloud that is constantly over my head just isn’t going to go away on its own and I need to do something about it before that cloud goes completely black…forever. I am in the process of researching therapists to try to get some “professional” help, but in all honesty, I don’t want to. I want to be able to do this on my own, even if it takes a little longer. We will see what happens with the therapist thing…

I am focusing on doing what makes me happy while I go on this journey to recovery. I am going to try my hardest to post a new blog every day, just summing up what had happened that day and how I was feeling. Today has been a pretty happy day, so it seemed like a good day to get this introductory blog up. I want to be able to look back on this blog on December 8th, 2017 and see how far I’ve come. Lets hope I make it.


Facebook was actually beneficial…

Today is my day off so I’m getting some stuff done. Applying for jobs, cleaning the house, and continuing to downsize to get ready for tiny house living. 

I love when I feel productive on my days off. Depression and anxiety are literally crippling, so to not have it affecting me for once is always nice. I’m trying hard to not let it control my life but damn it’s hard. 

I had a little moment last night where I feel like I understand why my anxiety and depression have gotten so bad over the last year or so. It’s because my life got good. Doesn’t make much sense, right? Wrong. 

Facebook was actually beneficial to me for once in my life. Social media is the devil of the internet. Social media causes us to view the world in a completely different way than we should be. It allows us to be jealous and hateful towards each other and glamorize our shitty little lives. I am 150% addicted to social media and won’t be leaving anytime soon, but I am fully aware that it puts me in a bad mood sometimes.

Once in a while someone will post something worth reading. Humans of New York is a Facebook page by Brandon Stanton. It’s a photo blog that tells the real life stories of people, not only in New York City, but all over the world. Recently Brandon posted a story of a man who has had his fair share of hardships in his life and he is currently struggling with anxiety and panic attacks, even though those hardships have left his life. He said he’s been dealing with them for so long now that he’s not sure how to handle the quiet. 

Holy. Fucking. Shit. 

I have NEVER related to something that HONY has posted, or anyone has posted really. I haven’t been able to understand what has been going on in my life. I haven’t been able to figure out why these things were happening when my life has gotten so good over the last year. I have an amazing boyfriend with an amazing family who loves and cares for me like their own. My own family has been through a lot but those problems have been long gone and we are all recovered/recovering. I have a job, I’m paying off my debt, I’m planning and preparing for my future. I can honestly say my life is good. My life is so good, so why am I so not…

The chaos that I’ve dealt with for a good chunk of my life is gone and I have been so occupied with it that now I don’t know what to do with myself. I don’t know how to just let my guard down and accept the fact that my life has gotten better, that I’m safe now. No ones going to hurt me anymore, no one is going to try to control my life anymore. I’m no longer fighting every day to defend myself from these demons that I have lived with for so long. 

Now that I feel like I’ve found out why this is all happening, I feel like I can have more control over it. I can acknowledge everything good in my life when I’m feeling down. I can keep the shitty memories at bay and hopefully slowly but surely forget them. I don’t have to let these demons continue tormenting me. They are gone, done with, out of my life for good. I don’t have to let them back in. I can’t. 

It’s a good feeling when I have these little revelations because it gives me some sort of sense of control in my life. It has been an absolute roller coaster ride and I just want to get off this damn thing. I feel like I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. 

I know I will still have my bad days, some way worse than others. I will still feel suicidal, I will still lose motivation to do anything at all. This isn’t going to get better overnight just because I realized what might be going on. It’s going to take a lot of time and a lot of work to get better but I want to get better. I want to be myself again. 

I will be myself again. 

I’m done counting…

It’s been quite some time since I’ve written anything. I’m a fucking mess. 

I can’t escape my own head. I am absolutely my own worst enemy. I don’t want to be anymore. I want to be able to shut my brain off. The only time I can ever do that is when I’m sleeping, and even then my dreams don’t help the situation. I’m exhausted and no one knows why but I do. I’m depressed and my anxiety is controlling my life. 

I feel like I’m officially at the point in depression where I don’t want to do anything. Nothing at all. I don’t want to be alive, I don’t want to exist anymore. Fuck it’s a shitty feeling. To constantly think about how much relief I would get out of being dead is not only terrifying but it’s not fucking normal. No one should ever feel this way and I feel it on a daily basis. I don’t know what to do anymore and if I think of something I’m afraid it’s too late. I have no motivation. I have been forcing myself to do things, normal basic daily tasks and fun hobbies. Forcing myself. That’s not normal. I shouldn’t have to force myself to do daily tasks and especially things that I should be enjoying. 

I felt like I was getting better but the suicidal thoughts never really leave. It’s not necessarily thinking of ways to do it, I never do that. I just think it would be a great thing if I was dead. I just want to be dead. 

My job has been extremely stressful and I know that’s not helping. I think that when/if my job straightens itself out it will help a little but barely make a difference. I’m just going to work, getting shit done, and coming home. Trying not to let it get to me but it does. I get home and all I think about it work. Last night I had to tell myself to stop thinking about work because I was trying to go to sleep and couldn’t get my mind to stop running. I can’t seem to turn off work once I leave the building. It just follows me home. I know my brain is weak and tired right now and things are just really bad there but I’m hoping it gets better. I don’t mind the job and want to keep working there but my mental health is at stake (again).

Something that’s really been getting to me the past couple days is the fact that I ran into the guy who decided it would be a good idea to rape me 5 years ago. 5 fucking years. I haven’t seen this “man” in 5 fucking years and was finally feeling like that night that completely destroyed me wasn’t anymore. And now it is again. 

I forgot what he looked like and now I know again. I close my eyes and I see his face. I try not to think about it but it’s all I can think about. I broke down at work thinking about it. I keep zoning out and not listening to others because I can’t stop thinking about it. That was the worst night of my life and the worst relationship I’ve ever been in and I just had the worst flashback when I saw him. 

I don’t know what to do anymore. 

Day 130

Today was a whole mess of emotions. I woke up feeling decent but I quickly went downhill. I’m not really sure why, nothing specific caused it. 

When I got to work I felt pretty good about just getting through the day and getting back to the hotel. The day seemed to drag on and I felt pretty depressed all day but I kept my composure and continued to impress my bosses. I asked the girl training me if there was anything I could improve on and there was nothing she could suggest. The regional manager spoke with me today and was pretty much bragging about me to me. It definitely sparked up my mood. Getting recognized at this job as been extremely beneficial to my oversensitive mine. 

After work I went back to the hotel and FaceTimed with my boyfriend. It’s nice getting to see him but I really really miss him being with me physically. I miss his touch and his smell and I just want to be on his arm right now, not in a lonely hotel room. 

I grabbed dinner at Applebee’s and went back to the hotel and talked to my boyfyriend more. He went to bed early so I’ve just been scrolling through social media. 

I’m really tired and homesick and I can’t wait until 3:30 tomorrow so I can start driving home. I’m going to go straight home after work and my boyfriend wants to have a nice dinner ready for me. Screw the food, I just want to jump into his arms. 

I’m going to head to bed now. I’m feeling a little off so I hope I feel better in the morning. Just one more shift and I get to fall back into my normal life. 

Goodnight world. 

Day 110-129

Slack-a-lackin on these posts. 

It’s been 129 days since I’ve started this blog, since I’ve felt so weak and so empowered all at the same time. I finally gained the strength to start doing something about my depression and anxiety. How am I feeling today? Anxious. As. Fuck. 

I’m 3 hours away from home, family, friends, my boyfriend. Im all alone in a foreign place and I fucking hate it. 

I’m here for work, I’m training to hopefully get promoted…so lets backtrack a little bit to 4/3, the day I started working again since November. 

My first day back to work was pretty scary up until I actually got to work and it was fine. I met 2 other full time employees that were new hires and a few employees that have been working for this company for a while and are relocating to this store. My coworkers for the most part are super nice, there might be a potential sexual harassment situation and another employee who I am absolutely going to have a problem with but other than that, everyone is golden. 

The job itself has been a whole clusterfuck of “what am I doing, why am I doing it, do I want to do it” etc… I am having a less hard time than I thought I would but it’s still harder than I want it to be, for my mental health. 

I feel ok when I’m at work, there was one time when I went in feeling like the lowest of the low, like I was doing everything wrong and I should just stop wasting their time. But then my boss told me that I was doing really well and one of the stock guys thanked me for paying attention to detail and not only fixing people’s mistakes, but showing the other employees and advising management that they might want to touch on that specific thing in training again. My assistant manager has been actually listening to what I want and is willing to make it happen. I have NEVER had management like this. My last job was great, management was even better, but it took much longer for them to recognize my hard work and eventually I got too mentally unstable to even continue with that job. It’s unfortunate, but it’s ok. 

So right now I’m training 3 hours away from home and I’m freaking out. I don’t know why. I just miss my boyfriend, I miss my bed. I miss the comfort of my own home. I miss being able to go to the fridge for food instead of eating out. I bought pizza for lunch today and I’m eating the leftovers for dinner because I absolutely don’t want to leave this hotel room. I’m tired, my feet hurt, my joints hurt in general from being on my feet for 8 hours. 

These all seem like little things, even to me. I wish they didn’t affect me so much, so poorly. I wish I could be excited about being here and I’m really excited for this promotion, I just can’t wait til I’m back in my own town. 

I honestly think I’d be ok if I had someone here, I feel like I’m the biggest threat to myself when I’m alone. I still think about killing myself occasionally, and it’s been more frequent since I’ve been here. I don’t want to die, I just want to sleep for a very very long time…maybe forever. 

I’m trying to keep myself occupied but it’s really hard when you’re alone for 16 hours out of the day. Luckily I sleep for like 6 of those 16 hours but 10 is still too much time to think. I just wanna go home. 

I get to go home on Thursday after work. I should be leaving around 3 and I’m probably just gonna head straight home from work and just dive into my boyfriends arms. I miss him soooo much more than I expected. I obviously expected to miss him, but I literally want to cry just typing this. I love this man so fucking much it physically hurts to be away from him. Call me obsessed! I don’t care, I am 150% addicted to this man. 

I think I’m just going to stay in tonight and relax before a fun filled day of training tomorrow. My shift is a little later tomorrow which sucks, but it’s only by an hour. It makes the day feel 10 hours longer though! I love early shifts. The girl who is training me is super awesome too. She’s my age, and she told me she was afraid I was going to be some old crotchety lady like most are in that department. Its just so much better that I’ve been working with people my age. It makes the work environment much more comfortable for some reason. 

So back to the employees I’m having trouble with… there’s one guy who has brought up a sexual harassment charge on him from his old job multiple times and he’s a very handsy person. I just don’t want him putting his hands on me or on anyone else, especially with a history like that. I’m not even sure why you would tell people that someone reported you for sexual harassment, then proceed to put your hands in places they don’t belong. I am going to talk to my manager about it and see what happens. 

The other guy I’m having trouble with is this punky kid my age who I’m pretty sure is just hardcore into drugs and alcohol. I’m ok if you want to have a little fun on the weekends, fine whatever, but this kid comes in looking like he’s on drugs, complained about the “don’t come to work smelling like alcohol or you will be investigated” rule, and is he laziest employee I have ever met at any job. Ever. He is abusing the break system which I absolutely will mention to my manager, and he takes any opportunity he gets to slack off. I have always been a hard worker and it pisses me off that employees can get away with such laziness like that. If you don’t wanna be there, leave! They’re not paying you to stand around and do nothing. 

I don’t like getting people fired, I don’t want these people to lose their jobs but if you’re bad for the company then peace the fuck out. 

Enough about work, I need to talk about me. Over the past month or so I’ve felt more in control of my mental state than I have in a very long time. But it’s still sooo bad. I know this isn’t an overnight healing process, I know that I have about 10 years of fucked up history built up and it’s not going to go away anytime soon. I am just getting so fed up with feeling any type of depression, just wanting to break down and cry my eyes out for no reason whatsoever, or for reasons that are so ridiculous or completely made up in my head. I don’t want to feel anxious to the point where I can’t function normally. I can’t fucking poop normal when I’m anxious. I can’t eat. I can’t sleep. I can’t hold a conversation or even keep my attention on something long enough to comprehend whatever it is that’s going on. I don’t want to feel that way anymore. For the most part I don’t, but every now and then, including now, I just want to break down. 

I think I’m just going to try relaxing for the night. It might be an early night for me, I’m really tired from today. I wanna get up early and grab Denny’s before work too, so the earlier I get to sleep the better. 

I know I’ve said this 100 times before but I’m going to try to write these every day. Bye for now 

Day 109

Today was a pretty good day but I’ve felt off for most of it. 

I woke up this morning and my boyfriend seemed to have a rough night. He was downstairs for a few hours before I got up. He ended up having a rough night because I had a rough night so it was kind of just a big mess but we were fine after talking and snuggling. I think we are both at the point where we don’t want our “little” problems to be big problems for the other person anymore. I say “little” because they may seem like minor issues to the other but to ourselves it’s a big deal. Anxiety makes everything a big deal…

Speaking of anxiety, I took a stupid little anxiety test a couple weeks ago when I was having a really bad attack. I wanted to try taking it while I was feeling those emotions. I feel like I can’t quite explain it unless I’m actually feeling it. I just remember that it’s a really shitty feeling. Anyway, I took the test and it spat out all of this stuff about the different types of anxiety I have and all that jazz. I have been getting emails from the lady who made the test and I kind of want to go through her program. I know it’s stupid, it’s some random quiz I found on the internet, this lady probably doesn’t exist and if she does she probably isn’t certified to give any type of advice…but I want to try it. While I can tell her emails are all automated, they were definitely written by a real person with real understanding of anxiety. I just feel calmer reading them. It’s weird… but once I start getting a paycheck and get back on track I might actually do it. 

Back to my day today…

After my boyfriend went to work I drove to my moms house to pick up my sister. We decided to go to Corbetts Glenn, a park with a gorgeous view. I love it here!

I want to keep going for walks every day that I can. Nature makes me happy, I am always just so relaxed and stress free when I’m out in nature. I want to feel that way at least once every day. It’s getting warmer so I can get outside more, hopefully that will lead to brighter days. I feel like my depression is pretty seasonal. But my anxiety has been non stop for a few years now. 

After we got back I hung out a little until my mom got up. We planned on going to my grandmas house to visit for her birthday. She is 90 years old! It was really nice seeing my grandma. I honestly think the last time I saw her was a year ago, for her 89th. I don’t want to only visit her once a year. I want to start seeing her more. I love my grandma and I think regular company will be good for her. My aunt lives with her but we all know my aunt drives her crazy 😂. 

I went home after and my boyfriend quickly greeted me and told me not to take my shoes off. I felt like I was in the car all day! I didn’t want to get in the car again. We went to run a quick errand and finally got back home, made dinner, and are probably going to bed soon. 

All day I felt anxious. I don’t know why. I’m not sure if it’s because my job is starting soon and that’s always a little nerve wracking or if it’s just all this other mysterious bullshit that anxiety likes to be triggered by. I guess we will find out when I start work. 

My boyfriend talked to me about that too. He said when my job starts I’m probably going to feel really anxious and stressed and I’ll want to give up but I have to just push through it and it will get easier. I know he’s right, I know that probably will happen and I’ll want to quit. The thought of backing out of this job has crossed my mind. I just keep pushing those thoughts out of my head though. I’m honestly excited to be working for the company that I am and I’m really excited to be working in this setting again. I’m glad that I interviewed with the store manager because now I have a good idea of how the management will be, and with this kind of management comes good employees which is a huge plus. I have had great luck with jobs when it comes to the employees and management, this streak is continuing it seems. 

So I’m definitely excited and definitely terrified but I know I can’t do it. I’m 108 days in since I started this little blog diary thing and at this point I’m feeling so much better than I did on day 1. It’s been 146 days of unemployment which has driven me mad, and I am really excited to get back to work.

I’m going to try to stay relaxed tonight. Just try to not have an anxious night. It’s impossible to control, but positive thoughts might do something. 


The past couple days have been fun. 

The weather has been a little warmer so my boyfriend and I went on a (very short) hike with his best friend and dog. The dog was being a little crazy and my boyfriends friend didn’t want to deal with him so we decided to head back early and take a drive. Towards the end of our drive we hit a hunk of sharp metal in the road and it blew the tire. My boyfriends friend and dog got picked up and we waited for the tow truck to arrive. 

The next day it was even nicer. We took my boyfriends niece around the block on her bike then went for a hike again. We found a nice spot to put the hammock up and relaxed for a while. 

It has almost been a year since we started hanging out and our first time hanging out was at this park. I will always love going here. Not only did it give me the most perfect boyfriend I could possibly ask for, he is absolutely the best friend I’ve ever had. I’m so lucky! 💚

Today he woke up with a stye so he called off from work and we’ve just been hanging out. I was having a bit of a rough time this morning. I’m not sure why but at night before bed and when I wake up I’ve been feeling so anxious. I think it’s just a time when my brain starts running. I have literally been thinking of the most irrational and irrelevant things. I’m trying not to let it get to me or cause any unnecessary fights but it makes me feel pretty shitty. I broke down a bit this morning and my boyfriend just held me and talked me through it. We have been getting better at comforting each other even when we need to be comforted. I know he hasn’t been feeling the greatest for a while now and he still puts my feelings first. He’s been trying to just shut things out, keep work out of home sort of, but I think it’s making things worse. I told him he can talk to me about his day even if it’s the same thing everyday. I want him to be able to vent to me or cry on my shoulder. I know how much “bitching” about things can make you feel better. Crying about things makes you feel better. 

Right now we are just hanging out. He is studying for his CDL and I’ve been playing video games. I start my job in less than a week so I’ll have something to do for 8 hours 5 days a week. 🙌🏻 

Things seem to be looking up. 

Day 92-104


Remember when I said I wanted to start these back up on a daily basis? Complete fail. 

The past few weeks have been pretty boring and repetitive honestly. 

I have been applying for jobs every day. I had a few interviews and finally landed a job. It pays more than minimum but less than I was making at my last job…quite a bit less. But it’s full time and it’s going to help me get back on my feet. I emailed my old boss and he is fully aware that I am interested in working there again, so hopefully someday in the near future I can pick that job back up and move this new job to part time. I’m really excited to get back to work. I interviewed with the manager and he seems super cool. I’ve been really lucky to have always had good managers, so it looks like that trend is continuing on 🙌🏻

I have been trying to sell stuff because I have bills coming up before I’ll get paid, so I need some money. I managed to sell $115 worth of stuff for me and $90 worth of stuff for my boyfriend. He’s helping me with my car payment and some of my insurance and my sister is letting me borrow some money for a credit card bill. I’m so lucky to have people in my life who care about me enough to let me borrow money. I hate letting people borrow money, I don’t every hand that out, so I really appreciate the help. 

I have also been playing a lot of Zelda. I am trying to 100% the game before beating Ganon so it’s taking a long time. I’ve had a lot of down time though. It keeps me busy, keeps the day going on. 

My depression hasn’t been that bad but I’ve been extremely anxious lately. I think it’s just because of the job search, because now that I have a job starting soon I feel a lot better. I just heard the news yesterday though so I can’t really tell, but my anxiety has been bad almost every day. It’s prevented me from eating which is causing digestive problems so I’m just a mess right now physically and emotionally. But I’m getting better. I’ve been eating good again for the past week now. Again, I started feeling better after I had the interview, was offered the job, and completed my drug test. So I think it was definitely the job hunt. 

Until I start work on the 3rd I’ll just be hanging around, trying to keep my head clear of negative thoughts. 

Wish I was back in Mexico 💚